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Are you starving your emotional body?

27/10/2023

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​The notion of having different bodies may or may not be new to you. What I'm mean, when I speak about your Emotional Body, is the part of you that feels... deeply.

Your big, tender, powerful, pulsating heart that feels Anger, Sadness, Fear and Joy ALL OF THE TIME.

Being attuned to your core feelings is like drinking in sweet nectar full of valuable energy and information that in turn nourishes your whole system.

Nectar that is a necessary lubricant for living a radically responsible, alive, connected, loving life.

Whether you can notice, feel and express your feelings will depend on the culture, family systems, educational institutions etc. that you've been raised within.

Sadly, most of them don't know how to feel consciously, responsibly, wholeheartedly.

Instead you may have learned to numb rather than to feel.

If this is the case, your Emotional Body is probably starving.

And when you starve your Emotional Body you will most likely be over compensating by feeding your Mental, Physical or Energetic bodies more than what they really need.

Binge eating, over-working, over-thinking, checking out, day dreaming, pleasing others and abandoning yourself, hrs of meditation so you can stay calm and grounded. This list is pages long (getting real and writing your own list can be helpful... and shocking).

The results of these starving/overcompensating behaviours can be things like weight gain, exhaustion & burnout, fatigue, depression, lack of focus/clarity, indecision, feeling anxious and more.
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​The good news is that YOU CAN CHOOSE to start feeding and nourishing your Emotional Body WHEN EVER YOU WANT TO.

You could even start right now by pausing, closing your eyes, noticing your heart and asking yourself "What am I feeling right now?"

Keep it simple and check in with your 4 core feelings: Anger, Sadness, Fear & Joy. They're all there all of the time at varying levels.

​Your core Feelings are like primary colours. The same way all colours are made from primary colours... so to are all feeling & emotion words your used to seeing/using are made up from the 4 core Feelings.
Understanding the nature of Feelings, how they differ from Emotions, what they're for, how they move in different ways through your Physical body takes time. Your Feelings, and your Feeling Body are both simple in nature and complex in the many ways they dance and sing through you.

If you've ever prioritised the health of your Physical body with exercise, massage, good food, touch and intimacy then I invite you to consider what else might be possible if you prioritised your Emotional Body in the same way.

These systems that are your different bodies all feed each other and the impact that starving any one of them is significant.

Knowing that there is very little education out there about this work both Saddens and Angers me. I also feel Fear about the state of the broader human condition in the world and Joy at what I see is possible when people step wholeheartedly into Feelings work.

All of my Feelings are my fuel for the work that I continue to do in the world. I'm so grateful that my life path has seen me walking many years in the numbness or corporate life so that I could feel the pain of this and use it as fuel to seek something different.

I'm also deeply grateful to have an ever growing community of deeply feeling humans around me both in my personal circles and through the work that I offer.
For me, Reclaiming my relationship to Anger was the necessary first step as contrary to popular belief, healthy functional Anger is necessary for creating safe spaces.

When you can hold a safer space within and for yourself, it becomes easier to feel the wells of emotion that have been pushed down, locked up, pushed away, abandoned all of these years.

And when the emotional rivers start to flow and move and release, clearing space for your Feelings to be sensed and felt you start to nourish the desert of your Feeling Body with welcomed rain.

With Love
Stacia
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    Stacia is a co-founder of The Art of Relating. A Writer, Facilitator, Speaker and Wisdom Keeper.

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