The [Adult] Rites of Passage..... continued...
Traditionally, around the age of 14-16 you are ‘ready’ to claim your own authority from the parents, teachers, guides and other ‘people of influence’ who have, to date, held the role of the responsible adult in your life. These so called responsible adults take on the role of teachers and of cleaning up the mess you make as a child while you are learning how to ‘grow-up’.
Shifting roles through undertaking a Rite of Passage is a cutting off from these external authorities and the claiming of and anchoring in to your own internal authority – this journey ‘kick starts’ the role of the responsible adult.
Unfortunately we don’t have adolescent Rite of Passages, nor do we have ‘whole’ adult caregivers who teach us to be responsible for our feelings – or to that end, that it is ok to feel in the first place. It’s not their fault, no one taught them.
Unfortunately, without such journeys in modern culture, there are a large number of people in adult bodies roaming this earth as kidults; physical adults with childhood and adolescent level responsibility who continue to make mess’, act irresponsibly and expect others to clean it up.
On a large scale this shows up as big business dumping waste down rivers, using chemicals on foods to increase production and profit without willingness to recognise and claim responsibility for the impact that spreads much further than their original intention.
As individuals and families, many of us are still wrapping up our waste in plastic bags and handing it over to someone else to take it somewhere else where it does something else… that we don’t know about.
As is evident in the above two examples, the solution isn’t going to be a quick turnaround. Some behaviours can be changed more instantly than others. What we are saying is that a large part of the solution is to reframe and reclaim our own authority by resensitising ourselves to our feelings.
Our energetic bodies are constantly in relationship with our environment. This is no longer hippy woo woo jargon. The Heart Math Institute for one has proven this – we are all connected energetically and our thoughts, our choices and our actions impact more than just us.
Our capacity to feel is the key to connecting to the information needed to begin making responsible adult choices for the benefit of all and not just the one.
The Art of Relating’s two foundational offerings The FEELING Rites and The BEING Rites are the entry points into Rites of Passage for ‘grown up’ people who are ready to become responsible, alive adults who experience life with deep connection and expansive freedom.