So much so that these are the top two responses I received from an online search on the word:
- the state or fact of having a duty to deal with something or of having control over someone.
- the state or fact of being accountable or to blame for something.
Having a duty to deal with something is much different to choosing to want to deal with something and nothing can actually happen until you choose to make it so.
It’s a hard one to digest isn’t it? That you are responsible for all that you are experiencing in life.
“If you didn’t say yes to it, you wouldn’t be doing it.”
YOU are taking responsibility for your life right now and you can learn how to consciously choose to respond from it, from your inner Being, OR you can continue to let all of your unconscious patterns play out… unconsciously.
It’s your choice. Remember, if you didn’t say yes to it, you wouldn’t be doing it.
Many of us are now beginning to wake up to a new possibility of what responsibility can give us – our ability to respond.
These days I see RESPONSE-ability as my ability to respond to what I’m FEELING in my own inner landscape, my INvironment within its relationship to my external ENvironment …
So how can you bring this possibility for response-ability through in a radical new way?
The response to this question is that it is a process of re-sensitising to your core feelings in such an intimate way that they speak and you respond.
A process of sensing the difference between a feeling and an emotion and creating and attending spaces where emotional healing can take place.
A process of being open to the possibility that you may still be running on some really old mental thoughtware. Thoughtware with programs that were outdated a long time ago; when you took your first step, when you left home, when you experienced a new culture, when someone close died.
These are stories that served to keep you safe. You’ve moved on. They need to too.
Only you can choose to change them. Making his choice is a radical step in a not so radical society.
If we simply let ourselves feel, listen and act upon the feelings that arise in each moment we gift ourselves the possibility to evolve into a new, more present and aware version of ourselves.
We can finally live and move freely in the story that we’re creating right now rather feeling the restrictions of the story the 5yr old created that feels like living in a straight jacket.
Has the straight jacket become too uncomfortable yet?
So finally, if we bring Radical into the equation and we mix in (the first two online definitions):
- (especially of change or action) relating to or affecting the fundamental nature of something; far-reaching or thorough.
- characterized by departure from tradition; innovative or progressive….
“Radical Responsibility is our ability to respond innovatively or progressively, characterized by departure from tradition, relating to or affecting the fundamental nature of something.”
No go and live it.
How can you depart from traditions that you didn’t create in order to live within your own story – the one you’re creating right now?
Notice and write down some of the habits you have in your daily life. Which of them serve you and which don’t. Keep this journal for 7 days and review it on the 7th day.
For the following 7 days choose 2 of the habits that you notice and change them slightly –simply to see what the outcome is by doing something differently.
Finally, make your own conscious choices about how you want to respond to situations in which your habit used to kick in.
You may choose to stick with it.
There may be an even better choice to make if you’re willing to look.
The FEELING Rites: 6 Wednesday nights, 7-10pm, commencing 19 July 2017
The BEING Rites: 6 Monday nights, 7-10pm, commencing 24 July 2017 (must have completed The FEELING Rites as a pre-requisite)
Reclaiming Anger Facilitators Edition: 7pm 21 July - 5pm 23 July, 2017
Reclaiming Anger #9: 7pm 4 August - 5pm 6 August, 2017